Sleep training your child is a tough undertaking. Iβve not had a client who said it wasnβt worth it but itβs a lot of work, and it requires a lot of discipline. Once you get your baby on a steady, predictable nap schedule and sleeping consistently through the night, parents often find themselves with a new problem: theyβre hesitant and scared to deviate in any way from their routine. Itβs totally understandable. After all, theyβve usually gone from a horribly sleep-deprived situation where neither they or their little one is getting any sleep, to a completely opposite scenario where Mum and baby are both well-rested and happy.
There is a big improvement in the whole familyβs quality of life and parents are really, really frightened to go back to no sleep. If you have a young baby the schedule usually looks like three naps a day and an early bedtime for a full night of sleep. So, when are you supposed to get out and live? I donβt mean βWhen are you supposed to get out for a fun night with your girlfriends?β I mean more like, βWhen are you supposed to do the groceries or even just have a play date?β
If youβre sticking to a nap schedule with a newborn, youβll get about an hour at a time when you could conceivably get to the grocery store, get your hair done, get an eyebrow wax or do any number of essential things that take longer than an hour. So, when life insists on impinging on your schedule, or your brows are just a bushy mess, Iβve got some advice for minimizing the impact that changing the schedule can have.
First off, wait until youβve formed a solid foundation for daytime naps. If the babyβs been sleeping well during the day for about two weeks, you can feel confident about switching things up a little bit every now and then. How often is now and then? I like to work off an 80/20 rule. Meaning 80% of the time you should be home for naps and bedtime and 20% of the time you can be out and about and either skip a nap or have a nap on the go.
Now, if you must skip a nap, or need to have one on the go, it should not be the first nap of the day that is lost. Thatβs usually the one where the baby will get the deepest sleep, so keep the car nap or missed nap for later in the day. If you do end up needing to let your baby nap in the car, do what you can to make sure they get a somewhat lengthy nap. If they fall asleep five minutes into a ten-minute drive, you might consider just driving around for another 15-20 minutes to allow for a 30-40 minute nap. You could try and transfer your child from the car to the pram or inside to bed, but real talk, we all know how that usually ends up. If your baby does wake up before theyβve had a decent nap, donβt try to put them back to sleep right away. Keep them awake for about 15 minutes less than their usual wake time and then try for their next nap.
Above all, donβt be afraid to ask for some help from friends and family if you are lucky to have the support around you. Ideally, your baby should be in their cot for their naps, so if you can get a grandparent or a friend to watch your baby for a few hours, you should absolutely take advantage of it. Youβll have plenty of opportunities to pay the favour forward down the road. Plus, grandparents love spending quality time with the grandchildren and no Mum feels good when they have bushy brows.
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